Year Six: Lessons Learned
Let’s be honest. . . I honestly didn’t think that I would stick to blogging this long. However, by the grace of God, we made it. Thank you all for showing so much love and support by reading my perspective on life.
This is my final year of being stuck in those twenty-somethings and baby I have learned some lessons. I dedicating my Bloggaversary to all the lessons I learned while on my journey on this trail called life.
Are you ready for the tea?
LESSON ONE: BE INTENTIONAL
As our good sis, Solange mentioned in her interlude song “Do Nothing without Intention”. When pursuing anything in life you have to have a vision. With that vision what do you see? Most of the time, I try to seek alignment between my inner desires and my external choices. This helps me with clarity. The clarity of being intentional helps me lead towards a fulfilling and directed life.
LESSON TWO: NO RUSHING
As a 29-year-old teenager, I am constantly battling being mature with no responsibilities. I can not explain this season that I’m currently in. Sometimes I feel like I should settle down, and become more strict on my routine. Become that organized - Instagramable perfect lifestyle baddie, but I fall short. There are days were I eat cereal for dinner instead of a well-balanced meal. There are days when I’m out all night long. There are days were I’m going to bed at 3:00 knowing I have to wake up early. I feel like when I have to take care of children I will solidify a solid lifestyle routine but until then. There is no rush.
LESSON THREE: LEARN MINDFULNESS
If there is one thing life has taught me it is that I am not in control of anything. When SZA created her album “Ctrl” can I tell you it changed my life since the release in 2017? I learned to let go of things that I can’t make sense of. I decided that if it was making me unhappy, not bringing me joy, no peace, stressful mornings, days, and nights. I have to simply choose me; with that saying I choose to be in the present and release my worries or doubts. I now focus on making thoughtful choices rather than acting of habit or impulse.
LESSON FOUR: RECLAIM YOUR TIME
One of my favorite toast and the one I always get wrong goes like this.
To the lives we lead. To the dreams we chase. To the moments that we make. And the fucked up shit we can’t erase.
Baby give yourself grace. We are perfectly imperfect! I don’t always make the best decisions! Have you seen the guy I’ve dated? smh! Acknowledge that mistake, and just know that acceptance is key. When you choose to dwell on a regret are you really taking the time to learn from that mistake? This allows you to shape who you are and give you wisdom for the future. I know that life is full of setbacks but resilience allows you to reclaim your time and keep moving forward.
LESSON FIVE: GETTING OLDER
Growing up, I felt like there was always a daunting stigma surrounding turning 30, mostly because that’s what other people told me. TV shows and movies paint a picture of losing your youth, and how life is all downhill after your 20s. I won’t lie, I definitely had a few moments of anxiety and fear as this year started winding down. My anxieties are becoming calmer and I am coming to terms that I am almost done with my 20s. And you know what? It actually isn’t so bad. I think my mindset changed when someone told me that getting older is a privilege. On my twenty-fifth birthday, I spent it in a hospital bed. To this day I have no idea what was wrong with me. All I know is my life flashed before my eyes and ever since. I have a little fear of my birthday coming around. I stopped having that fear on my 28th birthday in which I realized God had granted me another year.
LESSON SIX: FOCUS ON WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO YOU
I know this may be hard to believe but some people hate the the fact that I love posting on social media. I would hear the slick and discouraging comments about posting. However, if I listened to the naysayers where would I be? I would be living an uncomfortable and limited life, where I let people dictate my happiness because they can’t fully express theirs. I dedicate my social media and other outlets to expressing my little joys of life. Let’s be honest I’m addicted to getting free stuff. I wish I had more time to focus on my blogging career. If it was full-time, I would probably land more four-figure contracts. I love the ability to be able to show a mixture of my confident energy, beauty shots, and fashion choices. My vibe is upbeat on self-expression with positivity bundled in one. My goal is to inspire others to embrace what this little life has to offer us. You have to open the moment and I strive to be as authentic as possible although everything is not always highlighted on social media.
xoxo, with love & perspective
